So, I just got back from Babies R Us and have a little nap-break and wanted to share a little something.
While I was in an aisle contemplating whether the spinning entertainer saucer or bouncer entertainer was better, a lady came up to me to ask a question about a product.
She smiled and said, "So, is your baby.... a boy or a girl?" I looked at him... and back at her... and said, "Boy."
Now, Please picture this.... a dark blue, light blue and white striped t-shirt with the big words ALL STAR and pictures of a baseball, football, and basketball on it. (Kinda the most generic BOY clothing in the WORLD!) So, I guess I am laughing because this is Not the first time I have been asked this question while he is wearing a lot of blue, or just totally boyish looking clothes and has a blue blanket and is sitting in a blue carseat.... (not that girls can't have those.... it is just less common, I suppose.) I personally think he looks All Boy no matter what... and it's not like I dress him in yellow or green mid-gender things often.... or at all for that matter.
Well, I figured since these people are being "over-polite," not wanting to assume, they are probably just trying to avoid moments like this.....
A few years ago, while I was working at Los Hermanos in Provo as a server, a small family came in with two little children. One needed a highchair and kids menu. I kindly asked, "Would she like some crackers to snack on before the food comes out?" I noticed them looking at me a bit strangely as they said yes please. I walked away nervous. What did I do wrong? When I came back cheerfully delivering the crackers and water, the mom, with a glare and snooty tone, remarked, "Does my son really look like a girl?" I looked at "him" in the highchair again and quickly brushed it off saying- "Oh, I'm sorry, I wasn't really paying attention earlier. He is so cute!" The mom, gave a rude huff, and looked away from me. The dad felt bad for the awkwardness and said, "Oh, it's probably because we haven't dared cut his hair yet."
Yes, that's probably it. His beautiful long blond curly hair hanging over his ears, along with the white T-shirt under the old-school Turquoise Overalls with a big PINK BEAR on them. Hmmm. I guess I should've known.
I was mortified and asked several other servers behind the scenes to look at the kid and tell me whether they thought it was a boy or girl. THEY ALL SAID GIRL!!
And they didn't leave me a tip. HOW RUDE!
So, yes, when I see a baby hidden under a green or yellow blanket I might ask the same. But strange how these people don't even pretend to figure it out on there own here. I think I am making it pretty obvious.